Note from BW of Brazil: Inspirations for the articles I post here can come from numerous sources. They can be from just a new, hot news item, something someone said, a discussion in a social network or almost any other source. There are actually a three different origins of today’s piece. The first is a recent topic or controversy dealing with race, the interracial thing, sexual fetishes and stereotypes. It involved several young white girls making videos on the TikTok social media platform explaining why they are attracted to black men. For many, the way these young women talked about black men ventured into the realm of fetishization of black men.
One young woman went on and on.
“For all you chocolate men out there, who said it was okay to be that fine? That athletic? That sexy? So sweet,” she asked. “Wonderful personalities. Strong. Tough. Your lips. Your kisses and your hugs just hit different. Not too light, don’t like them too dark. I like them just right.”
I can imagine that there were some brothas out there who may have reacted like, “Where da snow bunnies at?” but there plenty of black men who saw the video and said how uncomfortable the video made them feel. Objectified, fetishized and weird. OK, so there are plenty of white women out there who “love them some black men” but the question is, where does attraction and/preference cross the line into fetishization?
The second influence that made me want to create today’s piece was an article I read many years ago on the belief that black men offered something special, different, appealing to white women and women in general. I was familiar with these ideas coming the United States perspective where the idea that “Once you go black, you never go back” is a well-known phrase. But the article to which I refer is taken from the the only Brazilian publication targeted at the black Brazilian population, Raça Brasil magazine and discussed ideas, thoughts and images Brazilian women have about black men. As the origin of beliefs about black men and black women in the United States and Brazil have the same source, slavery, it wasn’t at all shocking reading some of the very same things about black men in US being said about black men in Brazil.
The third inspiration for today’s article comes from a section of the article that took me back several years when I was going through what I’ll call my “white girl phase”. Still a teenager, I started dating a young blond I had met in suburban Detroit. I could focus on many things that stick out in my mind about that relationship, from the shock of her parents, to the reactions I got from people in the ‘hood and the warnings I got from my own parents about “messin’ around with a white girl”.
My experiences with just those topics alone could be the subject of several blog posts and even a book, but I wanna to focus on the section of the article below where one of the women states that “the myth about black sexual power frightens white men”. I’d heard about this reaction but it was really weird to actually experience this fear/hatred/envy. You see, the young woman I was dating had a white male friend she had known for years. She saw him as strictly a good friend while he always wanted to be more than friends with her.
When her friend learned about me, the racist comments and jokes began immediately. Every day I saw her she would tell me that “Dan” said this or that. He make all sorts of ugly comments about me in front of their circle of friends, but she noted that, deep inside, it really bothered him that we were dating. The very thought that a black guy could be holding her and doing all sorts of other things with her literally ate him up. It was actually kind of funny to me. But then one particular comment made me really understand that his not being able to deal with the girl he felt should have been his was deeper than I imagined.
Talking to him on the phone one particular day, “Mary” said the subject of her dating me came up yet again. As she continued to ignore his pleas to break up with me and his constant references to me as her “big nig”, he finally got desperate and blurted out, “I don’t want you anyway, I’ll never be able to fit you after Marques’s big schlong has been in you!” As she repeated highlights of the conversation to me, I actually paused for a moment after hearing that last bit. Still a teenager at the time, I had yet to realize how deep the question of race had affected Americans psychologically. This issue of race and stereotypes and how it affects behavior can be studied in so many different areas and ways.
For example, we know that another “dirty little secret” in American society is that there is a segment of the white male population that has a festish about seeing beautiful white women have sex with black men. This desire to see black men and white women engage in sexual acts fuels the interracial porn genre as well as white couples who participate in the swingers lifestyle and white men who define themselves as cuckolds.
Interestingly, in a Brazil where everyone wants to insist that Brazilians are “all equal”, as race is supposedly not a problem, the reality is that the same sexual stereotypes and images of black men and women exist in Brazil. If they didn’t, we wouldn’t have reports such as the one below. The fact is that, real or only in the imagination, these differences simply re-enforce the fact that people of different races don’t see themselves as the same, or even equal. This isn’t a bad thing. Instead of denying our differences, why don’t we simply appreciate them?Perhaps that way, the fear of the unknown and the stereotypes won’t influence our societies in such a negative manner. I know this can never be, but that’s how I see it.
Whether you see the story below as stereotype, myth or reality, check the view from Brazil on black men in the story below.
BLACK ATTRACTION: Is the black man really unbeatable in bed?
Hot, tasty and sexy are the most heard adjectives when it comes to black men. And nine out of ten women say: they have the larger “johnson” Pointed out as sexual myths, these tanned people have nothing to complain about and, happily, lie down and roll around in this reputation. And in bed, naturally.
By Camila Marçal
First it was Elis Regina who proclaimed in the song “Black Is Beautiful”, written by the brothers Marcos and Paulo Sérgio Valle “to want a man of color, a black god from the Congo or from here”, doing the honors of the politically correct, in the 1970s. Nowadays, less dramatic, the Cravo e Canela pagode group hit the charts with the playful song “Lá Vem o Negão”, meaning ‘here comes the big, black man’. The lyrics say: “Here Comes the Negão, Full of Passion! Get you, get you / Wanting to win over all the little girls / He doesn’t even pass up the cougars, no.” And the question that many people ask is the following: Is everything that is said about the sexual performance of the black man true?
“White men don’t like it when they’re compared sexually to black men”
It is clear that there is no table or scientific study that proves the superiority of black men in terms of sex. For many sexologists, this would even be a form of prejudice or a kind of “consolation prize” to the race. But women, specialists in the subject, white or black, attest that, when it comes to size, black men are beautiful… Really.
“They are more exciting and very hot, WITH an insatiable sexual appetite”
For the majority of the girls interviewed, the black man doesn’t even have to have a large penis to get that performance – whatever is missing in centimeters he makes up for in vitality.
“In addition to having the larger johnson, the fire is impressive. I think they’re really kind of lustful. I just met a white man with a similar disposition. With one of the black boyfriends I had, for example, I had sex about four times a night. And look, if I let him, this would continue,” confesses public relations rep Alessandra de Oliveira, 35, white.
Another that confirms that “black men have steam” is Márcia Mendes, 26, student, black. “I think black people are hotter, they have that thing about kissing from head to toe, being more willing to have sex.” But Gislene Gabriel, 23, model and black, makes a reservation.
“In fact, the black man’s penis really is big. But that doesn’t mean that he is better in bed. There is no point in having it and not knowing how to use it.”
The body of a black man made Carla Gomes, white, 24 years old, a student, forget the prejudices she had against the race. “The first time I kissed my black boyfriend, I was afraid to open my eyes, but then I let myself go. Carla confirms that the member is bigger. “In fact, bigger and stronger, like all the members of a black man’s body. The penis is stiffer, the skin texture is different. And they are insatiable,” she says. And each calls attention to a fact: “The myth about black sexual power frightens white men. The white boyfriends who come after are always afraid of the black man being better.”
In the opinion of the secretary, Renata de Oliveira, white, 28, what counts is love and lust. For her, this myth is a form of prejudice. “The woman may not want to say that she likes the black man as a man, as a partner. I’ve already dated several black men and I don’t know if it’s different from white men. I think that when you are involved, sexual intercourse is always good,” she analyzes. But Renata ends up confessing that, physically, the black man attracts her: “They are very beautiful, they always have a perfect body. It’s difficult for you to see a short, fat black man.”
For teacher Luiza Lima, white, 25, “having sex with a black man is more natural. The black man likes to have sex and that makes him more affectionate. Not to mention that he doesn’t even have to do weight training, because he comes with everything ready,” she says. Ana Santos, 29, white, architect, confirms that black men are more potent, but also warns that this is not a condition for being the best among the best. “He is more well-endowed, even as a physical matter, just like the black woman has a firm ass. But that doesn’t mean that the sexual performance is better.”
The stereotype came with the Portuguese
For the sexologist Oswaldo Martins Rodrigues Jr., white, this stereotyped image of blacks comes from the time of the discovery of Brazil. “The Portuguese preferred mulatto women. We must also remember the myth of Xica da Silva. These concepts were passed down from generation to generation and today people have sexual fantasies about black people. It’s not for nothing that we see, in erotic magazines, white couples asking for partnership with black couples.”
Rodrigues analyzes that black people, today, for a certain portion of society, have to be good in bed. The sexologist warns, however, that being good in bed has nothing to do with the size or number of times sex is practiced: “Good in bed is the one that is good for the partner. One of the main complaints of women today is that men have sex to keep count, counting the number of times they get laid.”
Rodrigues doesn’t know of any study that points out a comparison between the penis size of the white man and that of the black man. “What we know is that, in terms of penile prosthesis, the Orientals are smaller than those in the West.” He explains that the paranoia of men regarding the size of the sexual organ has always existed and is a constant concern among his clients: “Every man measures his penis at some point in his life with that of his colleague. The complaints, however, are unfounded. There are men with a 20 cm (7.87 inch) penis complaining about the size, whether white or black.”
Engineer and microentrepreneur Eduardo Francisco da Silva, 38, thinks that this prejudice may be linked to the fact that they think black people are concerned with simpler things. “It is a form of animalization of the black. Women, however, can let themselves be carried away by this prejudice, even unconsciously, and let their imagination run wild, trying to find in the black man a great sexual appetite,” he defines.
Black actor Jorge Figueiras, 27, says that his white wife assumed that it was sexual attraction that led her to him. “But after the first meeting, we stayed together and that is how we are today. She wanted a night of love. And got it.” Figueiras confirms that there is a myth, even among men, that the black man’s sexual organ is larger. And he thinks that the story may have a basis: “Size has to do with race”, he considers.
Another one that has already been well sung is the black model Alexandre Paes, 23 years old. “Many women come to us thinking only of sex, with the image that the black man is indomitable, insatiable, in short, a horse.” Alexander echoes those who claim that sexual superiority is a symbol of race, but emphasizes that there are those who are well-endowed among both blacks and whites. For dating, he prefers white women. “Black women don’t value themselves and I like sexy ones.”
Taiguara, 28, a highly much-sought-after black model, closes the cycle. “When the woman looks for us, she wants something different, she wants a strong, powerful sex. And we give it to her, because our member is bigger and we are also more fiery. “
Men warn of prejudice, but many confess to being well-endowed
Most black men are aware of the prejudice that exists on this issue, but many of them do not deny that they even like to see themselves as myths. For the actor Mauricio Gonçalves, the black man has to be folkloric to accept himself in Brazil. “Either he is good at samba, he is good at ball, or he is pai de santo (see note one), or he scores 10 in bed. The image of the black man is linked to the characters of (author) Jorge Amado,” he says.
Danger in the sight of other races
Joel Zito Araújo is doing a doctorate in communications at Universidade de São Paulo (USP) on Black Identity and Television in Brazil. For him, the black man, especially with regard to sexuality, has always been considered a danger to the white race. “This has been going on since the period of slavery, when blacks were castrated for having relationships with white women.” The scholar also mentions the singer Harry Belafonte, who appeared on TV wearing tight pants with belt and open shirt, showing his chest. “At first, the producers played with the audience. But then he started to be harassed.” Comedian Bill Cosby also went through a similar situation. “In the work he did, he appeared as a sophisticated man, who spoke many languages and circulated in the white community, but didn’t let any sensuality transpire.” Both cases are from the 70s.
Araújo spent six months in the United States, where he clearly realized that American culture values blacks from a sexual and athletic point of view. “So much so that in advertising, the high performance of the black man is associated with gym shoe brands.” This same trend, he says, has been detected in Brazil. “But these stereotypes are pleasing to the black man.” In Araújo’s view, the fact of considering the black man good in sports and in bed is a way of reinforcing racism, of bringing him closer to the animal. “It is a reverse racism, which has a negative basis”, he teaches.
- Holy priest of the Afro-Brazilian religion Candomblé