White girlfriend asks, “are you jealous of my hair?” How structural racism works

Flávia Simas
Flávia Simas

Note from BW of Brazil: As more and more Afro-Brazilians take to the internet to express their thoughts and opinions on the racial situation in Brazil, the stories and experiences continue to be fascinating, offering a unique glimpse into the sometimes subtle, sometimes blatant nuances of how racism works in Brazil. Experiences and realities that many Brazilians continue to try to ignore or pretend doesn’t exist under the guise of  the belief that “we’re all equal.” This piece touches on a number of topics that show how racism and white privilege work together starting with society’s deeply ingrained view of what is considered “good hair.

How structural racism works

by Flávia Simas

I wrote the post below as a rant on my Facebook. As the reception was very positive, I decided to leave it here for easy access in the future (since Facebook posts usually get lost):

I want to tell a story to you: a few years ago I was in a competition in Brasília (1). I don’t even remember what the competition was, I just know it was in my field, but this is not relevant. I went with a college friend from who also majored in Letters and who has worked with me for years and was a person I held in high esteem. That day, we shared the same hotel room. When I was getting ready, she took a comb, and what happened at that moment was so surreal that I never forgot it: she began to comb her super straight hair and while sliding the comb through, she asked me, ‘and so, are you dying of jealousy?’ At the time I was frozen. It took me a few seconds to BELIEVE she was asking me that. I then said: ‘no, I’m not jealous, because I like my hair, I don’t need to be jealous of yours.’ She said nothing, I didn’t apologize, it was a tense atmosphere for a few minutes but it ended there (2). I continued being friends with the person concerned. Because I thought it was just a few ‘seconds of silliness’ and that, despite everything, I’m so used to the subtleties of Brazilian racism that it would not make much difference cutting ties with who said it.

"Are you dying of jealousy?"
“Are you dying of jealousy?”

Life went on and our paths followed their happy directions, I left Brazil, etc, etc, etc.  But, I follow friends on social networks. That’s where I find funny ventures in social networking, hahaha. For me, that was a person who ‘did everything right’ in my past college days, I changed quite a bit, became politicized. I realized that I don’t need be silent anymore in the face of injustices that happen in this world. From old friends, from both college and church, as in my own family, there remain only those who somehow manage to understand the trajectory of my life. And if you don’t understand many of my positions, considering them too ‘radical’, at least put yourselves in my place. I might not have changed much if I had not left Brazil. But I’m very happy to have changed. I exercise gratitude every day, for being who I am today, to be where I am and managing to be a model for many girls. The other day I read one of the most beautiful and liberating phrases in my life: ‘I don’t want to be the standard of beauty; I want to be the standard of acceptance’. Today my little friend who I introduced in this text blocked me on Facebook. Little does she know that her attitude is only one of so many. The wheel of life is like this… some might wonder why I haven’t blocked before. The answer is simple: because I have nothing against this person. What she did to me in that hotel will never be forgotten, but I don’t suffer with that. As it was impossible not to remember the incident, keeping in mind that she blocked me today simply for arguing that the author of the text she shared knows nothing about structural racism. And, really knows nothing. After all, if she knew, she would not have written an ultra-reactionary text saying that FIFA (3) is not racist.

The structural racism is this, my people: the opportunities exist, they are the same, but strangely the reality does not change. It does not change the fact that, between myself and a little blonde girl who is probably super nice and good people, they had chosen me to frisk at one of many airports I’ve visited in my life. It doesn’t change the fact that, in a restaurant in which we are seated, myself, my husband (black) and our white friend, the waiter handed the bill to the little white friend, who wasn’t even paying because he was our GUEST and the waiter had to walk a further distance to give him the bill because he was closest to my husband. It doesn’t change the fact that I’m extremely ill-treated in designer shops in Goiânia (4) even having money to do my shopping. It doesn’t change the fact that, in the middle of Bahia, they had chosen Fernanda Lima, a super good person, very white and beautiful (and I’m not being ironic, she really is beautiful) to represent Brazil in a (World) Cup event. It doesn’t change because in Brazilian society, the places are marked. Gente preta (black people), only in entertainment. The black woman, to gain visibility, must be linked to the image of sensuality. I’ve heard that manure that ‘white women can’t participate in the Globeleza (contest), and that it’s racism against whites’. Yes, my dear, I’ve heard this. The person who wrote this has no idea of how structural racism works; because she’s probably there in her little privileged place. She doesn’t understand that the competition itself is already an aberration, an act of extreme objectification of black women that is only considered a body, never as a mind, never as someone who can present the Final Draw, for example. She doesn’t understand that the competition is not giving visibility to black women, but indeed keeping her same in her place: that of visual appeal because it is ‘by the body that one recognizes the true negra’. And the Cup is not necessarily giving visibility to whites, but maintaining the ‘natural’ order of things: that of people who can argue well enough to present an event of this magnitude.

Fernanda Lima presenting at the Final Draw for the 2014 World Cup
Fernanda Lima presenting at the Final Draw for the 2014 World Cup

So people of ‘the old (times)’ that still remain on my Facebook, here’s my plea: think carefully before saying that there was no racism on the part of FIFA. Because the racism of which speak is structural, and not that of the Ku Klux Klan, that throws blacks in fire. It’s subtle, it’s almost imperceptible, but keeps “cada macaco no seu galho (each monkey on its branch).” (5) Take heed, however, to the fact that every manifestation of power finds resistance. Black resistance is booming in Brazil, and suddenly we are increasingly conscious that structures that gradually exclude some and favor others can – and should – be questioned in its detail and particulars. Finally, to use a phrase well-used by Facebook reactionaries: ‘nothing against’ Fernanda Lima, to me it makes perfect sense that she had been chosen to present the hyped up event there – after all, the implicit logic in Brazil is that the roles are well divided and she, within that system, did more than earn her branch. Just don’t think that this order will remain forever.

SourceAtivismo de Sofá, UOL Virgula

Notes

1. Brasília is the capital of Brazil and the seat of government of the Federal District.

2. Another important detail to note in this exchange is, looking at the author’s hair in her photo, she doesn’t have very tightly coiled nappy, kinky or pixaim hair. Her hair is of the loose curl variety, but even so, as the standard of “good hair” is straight, her white friend with extremely straight hair still saw herself in a position of superiority.

3. Fédération Internationale de Football Association, the governing body of international soccer and responsible for the organizing of World Cup events.

4. Goiânia is the capital and largest city of the Brazilian state of Goiás. With a population of 1,301,892, it is the second-largest city in the Central-Western Region and the 13th-largest in the country.

5. This is a reference to the controversy surrounding FIFA’s decision to reject two black hosts for its televised Final Draw ceremony for the 2014 World Cup and replace them with a white couple, model/TV host Fernanda Lima and her husband Rodrigo Hilbert. The controversy hadn’t yet worn down when Lima performed the song “Cada Macaco no seu Galho (Every monkey on its branch)” on her TV show Amor & Sexo. Here is how the performance and the reaction was described on the Virgula website.

“After controversy over racism, Fernanda Lima arouses anger on the web singing “Cada Macaco no seu Galho (Every monkey on its branch)” on TV. For internet surfers, choosing the musical number was unfortunate being that it was in the same week in that she was involved in a controversy about racism with FIFA. On Thursday, December 5th, model/TV host Fernanda Lima aroused the ire of web surfers on the Globo TV show Amor & Sexo (Love and Sex). The host sang and danced to the song “Cada Macaco no seu Galho (Each Monkey on its Branch)” accompanied by dancers in monkey costumes.

Host/model Fernanda Lima performs the song "Cada Macaco no seu Galho" on the TV program "Amor & Sexo"
Host/model Fernanda Lima performs the song “Cada Macaco no seu Galho” on the TV program “Amor & Sexo”

“For internet surfers, choosing the musical number was unfortunate as in the same week she was involved in a controversy over racism with FIFA. “Fernanda Lima, that one that has no fault in being white, started the program in this way,” criticized a user of Facebook. “Fernanda Lima with bananas on her neck, dancing monkeys, singing each monkey on its  branch…Yeah, the banana for the black player in the stadium is overkill,” joked another user on Twitter. “In the midst of a scandal over racism? A notion? Respect?” asked another. “It’s an outrage,” one commented on the social network. At the end of the presentation, Lima still scooped “Go away all you monkeys, each one in its square,” as the dancers left the stage.”

Note from BW of Brazil: A little background here. In Brazil, where many people continue to believe racism doesn’t exist, the association of black people with monkeys continues to be very strong and is often the first thing out of a white person’s mouth in the event of a confrontation with a person of visible African ancestry. As such, Lima performing a song called “Every Monkey on its Branch” could be interpreted as her saying “every black has his/her place”, in response to her and her husband being chosen over black actors Camila Pitanga and Lázaro Ramos in an important, televised pre-World Cup event. “Blacks knowing their place” is another common belief/saying in Brazil. Although no one can prove that this was Lima’s intent and she could easily brush accusations aside as people being paranoid or too sensitive, her “is it only because I’m white?” comment in reference to the original controversy leaves her open to the accusation. And as Simas alludes to in her post, racism isn’t always of the blatant KKK variety. Apparently others interpreted Lima’s actions in this way also.

Just for historical context, “Cada Macaco no seu Galho” is a Samba performed by an under-appreciated legend of the genre, the great Riachão, a 92-year old baiano from Salvador, Bahia. Check it out below

Riachão “Cada Macaco no seu Galho”

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9 Comments

  1. There’s really only one way to solve this type of stuff. OWNERSHIP! You need to own things. White folk only understand one thing and one thing only = MONEY.

    When you have money you can buy businesses, property, political power/influence, even public influence via media.

    Screaming and protesting “Respect me for what I am” is not going to work. It didn’t work in The United States, its not working to work here. Short of throwing them out of the country ala Haiti, the goal should be reaching economic parity within say 20 years.

    I have serious plans to help boost economic development in areas dominated by Afro-Brazilians.

  2. Hi, of course being not from Brazil and being a white European I have nothing to add to this. Only that, in my country, because most of people have straight brown hair, blondes are considered superior beauties. Also afro curly is considered beautiful because they are very rare. We are all the same skin colour, but hair is different. There will be always something, the arrogant people will try to make you feel sad about. And, to give you something to be happy about your hair, I always wanted to have that curly hair on the upper picture! You just should have laughed about that snob bitch you considered once a ‘friend’.

  3. “a few years ago I was in a competition in Brasília. I don’t even remember what the competition was, I just know it was in my field, but this is not relevant.”

    Once upon a time, a long time ago…
    Excuse me, but my personal BS detector is beginning to go off.

  4. I think the “friend” illustrates a part of white privilege and presumption. She wanted to appropriate or “own” Flavia’s attention, as if she and her pathetic whiteness SHOULD be the center of attention. This is part of SOME whites self-serving pre-occupation with themselves, not all whites mind you but SOME.

    The comment she made is so startling that I also more suspect that deep down there is a personal jealously of Flavia by the friend. The jealously was well hidden but came out when Flavia was in the competition in Brasília. The friend I believe, saw that Flavia was her own woman, a woman that is blossoming in many ways, and a woman that did not depend on her for approval. The “friend’s” surreal comment was a way to cut Flavia down, to diminish Flavia, by using her “white card”, using her white skin privilege.

    This is not unusual here in the US. Blacks can go on for years in good relations with whites only to be surprised or shocked one day at some comment- like the white friend suggesting how “unusual” it is that the black person is so “articulate” or smart, or how “lucky” a black person is to have X amount of money in the bank, and so on, as if black people aren’t supposed to have such things. A deep rooted jealously, envy and hypocrisy underlies white privilege, and it will come out at the most unexpected times.

    Writers on the issue of whiteness in the United States have sometimes commented on this phenomenon, and it is the disappointment of many black people to endure such betrayal from whites they thought they had excellent relations with. Still this is no cause for Flavia’s sorrow. The friend showed her true colors so to speak. Better Flavia learn this now rather than at a more critical time, when she will have to depend on this friend for something really important.

    This incident is one of white privilege presumption and vanity, but It also could be that this was just personal jealously expressed through the arrogance of white skin privilege. Flavia need not become this person;s enemy, the can still remain on speaking terms, but their relationship is forever changed. Flavia will now be wiser, smarter, more wary, and of course, more beautiful than ever 🙂

    FLavia- you can post my response on your Facebook anytime if you wish..

    • There are dozens of hard working and poor white people, tell them that they have “white privilege”. Speaking of privilege, in US there is affirmative action, positive discrimination and quotas for minorities, including blacks, so only moron could speak about “white privilege”.
      Talking about “white card”, in US there is Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton using race card for blacks.

      • Affirmative Action in the U.S.A. has been shown to have largely not worked for black Americans. Further, 80% of the gains made by Affirmative Action policies were for white American women…

  5. Actually plenty can be “told” about how white privilege has benefited the so-called “hard working white people.” And it is not pretty. The dozens of “hard working white people” have in fact been beneficiaries of white privilege for until relatively recently, they systematically discriminated against blacks in jobs, housing, financing and a host of other things, including the use of murderous violence, like the “hard working whites” that murdered black railroad workers who dared to work in “reserved” white jobs, or the “hard working whites” that massacred hundreds of Chinese in the American West for such “crimes” as opening hand laundries.. You would know this if you had any clue about US history.

    And actually the primary beneficiaries of “affirmative action” are whites- particularly white women.

    Hard Data:
    The Affirmative Action Propaganda Machine
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2014/01/the-affirmatve-action-propaganda.html

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    “Affirmative Action” in the form of court remedies has been around a long time- since the 1930s- benefiting white union workers against discrimination by employers
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2013/09/affirmative-action-as-term-appears-in.html

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    Mugged by reality 1: White quotas, special preferences and government jobs
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2013/06/mugged-by-reality-1-white-quotas.html

    Lightweight enforcement of EEO laws contradicts claims of “flood” of minorities “taking jobs”
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2013/06/blog-post.html

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    Railroaded 3: white violence and intimidation imposed quotas
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2013/06/railroaded-3-white-violence-and.html

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    Railroaded 2: how white quotas and special preferences blockade black progress…
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2013/06/railroaded-2-thow-white-quotas-and.html

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    Railroaded 1: How white affirmative action and white special preferences destroyed black railroad employment…
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2013/06/railroaded-how-white-affirmative-action.html

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    Affirmative action: primary beneficiaries are white women…
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2011/04/quick-regime-kill-hopes-in-libya.html

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    7 reasons certain libertarians and right-wingers are wrong about the Civil Right Act
    http://nilevalleypeoples.blogspot.com/2012/05/7-reasons-libertarians-may-be-wrong.html

  6. All I want to say……..IS…..most of the comments left on this site….were rediculous …..and it showed that..the majority of you…don’t have a clue…..about the mindset of some racists.

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